There is no try. There is only do. Trust me... "I tried, and I am getting divorced".
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I don’t know if any of this would work
I can save you a lot of thinking based on (bad) experience. If you are doing something to try to change her or how she feels, it will most likely ... at best... lead to false hope and another let down. It might drag things out, but if your motivation is to change her, it probably won't work.
You can be nice, you can be charming, you can dress well and have good manners, but you have to let her go, and if she comes to you, then you might need the vets, IMHO.
Do not bring up R talk. If she does, just agree with her or say stuff like "I see". Detach now.
Your stated purpose is already bad: to discuss mediation. You made this date, so you have to stick to it, but keep it short and on that topic, validate.
Unless, of course, she changes the topic. Listen.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 08/21/1012:14 AM.
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