What should I do about filing? I don't want H to get off blame-free but I don't want to be the one to initiate filing. And if I do initiate filing I will want to use adultery, which can be hard to prove. And it's also a crime in NYS so H could be charged with it. However I don't want to be adversarial. But at the same time H deserves to shoulder the blame for the marriage ending. But if I let him file no-fault then the courts will see he initiated it, not me and I'll be able to voice my disagreement. But at the same time in order to not burn bridges it would be better for me to give in and file the way he's demanding than it would be to file the way I would prefer to. However, again we're back to I don't want to be adversarial. But he's being adversarial so why should I be nice? And again, don't want to burn bridges so that he will never consider a future reconciliation.
This has me dizzy from going in circles.
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