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[Truegritter]

I'm thinking love lets go, allows people to do and be who they are, allows them to walk the path they are on. When her path conflicts with mine then I need to create a boundary.

That is spot on my man. This how I view love too. You can let them go without the anger, resentment etc.

Strength stands up and does the right thing regardless of what people think. My W may be totally pissed off at my boundary and it could drive her further away

Agree again. After I posted this to you I wrote down my own answer:

Strength is standing up for your own core. Your own beliefs and setting boundaries for YOU.

And most importantly enforcing those boundaries.

It is NOT controlling/manipulating.

I'll read the thread you referenced.

Thanks man.