Little exchange this morning.

the money she owed to joint is STILL not there.

So I sent:
M: And? This is irrsponsible. You need to fix this.
H: I WILL. I told you I am working on it. I will let you know when it's done. I am not your child, it was a f*&king accident
M:Whoa! I'm not going to tolerate that tone from you or anyone else. You said they were going to send you a PIN. You said nothing about it taking a week or followed up with me on delays. I am not treating you like a child. In fact, I am treating you like an adult.

She has read it and not responded.

I was tempted to ask if she was having a bad week but thought better of "temp checking"

Since she is so clearly under financial pressure, should I take the opportunity to tell her I have made inquiries as to her next vehicle?