Your right, not telling what can happen in the next 85 days...but know that YOU and your CHILDREN will be fine!
I can tell you that my H told me he would never live in the same town as me, yet alone with me, ever again...and just 2 months later he was moving back to town!
They don't even know what is going to happen the next day, week, month, year...just focus on you and the kids...give yourself direction and work on your happiness...that is greatest gift you can give yourself and your family!
Punkin....have been reading the latest developments in your stich....sorry that you had to deal with H's craziness. You have received lots of great advice.....IMO by withdrawing the car insurance H is punishing you for standing up to him....in his screwed up way it gave him back the "control" that he felt that he'd lost when you refused to sign the papers.
And I agree with imLIN above....our guys are so out to lunch that there is no way to know what's going to happen next day, week, month.....part of the MLC rollercoaster.
Punkin, I love your spirit....your spunk....you hang in there and don't let him change who you are
((((hugs))))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I've just come in from outside mowing and weed-eating. My friend found me a self-propelled push mower for $40.00 at a yard sale. Runs great. I need it to get to the places I can't get to on the tractor. I usually do a lot of thinking while on the tractor. I've been thinking of this upcoming trial date and what I should say. I know I need to follow my lawyer's lead. Just remain dark for the meantime.
I tell myself that it's stupid to think of it as losing him, I've already done that. It's up to him whether he decides to return or not. I've thought of all the nasty things OW has done behind his back to me. No point in telling him, he won't believe, or wouldn't care.
Trying not to fall in a pity party, but know that will not be difficult to do with nothing stronger than 7up in the house.
Actually 7up is probably better at keep you UP then something stronger since that stuff is categorized as a "depressant" for a reason...but I know what you mean...however, I found sometimes it was better just to have my self a good cry...then dust myself off and jump back into making my happiness plans!
Sometimes it was watching "What About Bob?" or some other crazy, stupid, funny movie...or going to get a pedicure...or having a lunch date with a friend that maybe I had not seen much of...or just spending the time to fix a really nice dinner for me and the kids to celebrate OUR life together!
It is tough...don't think for a moment I have forgotten that...everytime I hear of another friend whose marriage is breaking apart...I cry...because I feel their pain!
So...maybe a good cry is what you need, then a nice shower (can be done at the same time too), then pop open the 7up and "heads up" !...on with the day...and too bad for everyone else!
H is still trying to contact me via E-mail, but they are all going into the spam. I couldn't help but peek at one. Still threatening to quit paying any and all bills. I have no intention of responding. If he does, it's just one more promise I have on paper that he has not kept.
Called and spoke to Mtg. holder about re-fi in my name with quit claim. Said my credit rating is excellent ( As is his. I should know, I built it) I can re-fi @ 4.5%, which is great.
2 threats today. Wonder how many he will add up before 11/17?
So proud of you! Keep away from the emails. Feel good about how you have taken care of you and yours. Awesome news about re-fi / keep doing the next right thing! You are wonderful!!
IB
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Oh yes, keeping the emails in a folder named after H. So I can hit one button and print them all off. I'm getting a suspicious number of 'out of area' phone calls. Think that is him trying to reach me. He must be worried.
