Talk about getting stuck on the small details. I am just about to continue my mistakes from the past - time to learn from others mistakes, not my own.
This is an earlier posting from Gucci Loafer;
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Wrong guys.. Wrong..
It is WHEN the WAW begins to FEEL (notice the word FEEL or FEELINGS) that the BS may not only have let go, but that they MAY (notice the word may) have now lost the BS for good...
The betrayed spouse has their best chance when the wayward stops thinking "how do I get out of this" to..
"did I go too far? what have I done? maybe I have made a mistake"....
Those thoughts CAN NOT enter the WS's mind UNTIL they start to ponder that they may have lost the betrayed spouse.
As long as the WS still thinks you want them back it doesn't matter how much of GAL you do. Part of the GAL that is so important is the part where the WS WONDERS if you are emotionally finished.. finito.. done.. The only way to do that is with NO PRESSURE. NO PURSUIT. NONE.
There are numerous examples of men and women on this site that admit they have gotten a life, but still haven't shown or convinced the WS that maybe, just maybe they have lost you for good. THAT is the key of GAL that opens the door to reconcile. (which is the biggest key the BS doesn't do.)
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That is the bigger picture. My focus was getting blurred, as I think has been going on for a while. Define a while.??
My WAWs recent changes my be a reaction to my long term aim of detachment.
Now is not the time for me to lose focus and start reacting to her.
She is only reacting to me. A positive !
Regards, Gyn.
Amazing. A few mins trawling these boards can help in such a simple way.
Sorry to hear about your continuing sitch gr8.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
