i totally agree. maybe that's why i get asked "do you want to be married or do you want to be right?"

she's 65 and her condition has gotten worse over the years.

my stubborn-ness is preventing me from extending an olive branch to her. if i do that now, he may think i'm plotting something and not being sincere.

i'm working on something .. not sure if it will work but i can't post details here .. don't want any lurkers to thwart my plans.

although he is already avoiding me so i don't know whether any plan wil be effective.