How To Tell The Kids

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Also, do I teach her how to use the lawn tractor or let her suffer through trying to figure it out herself. I'm guessing that I should be nice and show her, but I always seem to do the wrong thing, so I thought I'd ask for advice.

Offer to mow the lawn for her for the next couple weeks. This way you get to spend an extra night with the kids, and she might even invite you in for dinner or bring you a glass of sweet tea.

Really? Isn't this the opposite of what Coach just told me?

I would like to strongly suggest that you do as coach says, Treat her like a cat. Be catnip.


Let her deal with the lawn...Until SHE brings it up.

Then you PRACTICE your LISTENING and validation (and/or agree) skills but do not rescue....

W: "Bla bla bla the lawn Bla bla bla"
H: "You are right about the lawn"
W: "Bla bla bla"
H: "I see" or "I understand" or "that must be hard"
....

Responsibilities are going to shift all around....and balance themselves out with a 50/50 parenting plan....

Pick up new responsibilities and wait till she asks for help...then DB.....