Need some encouragement

[Mila]

Hi Kissak, I'm sorry that you are going trough issues with your H.

I did notice your post about OW being single again and my gut feeling is that this is what is rattling your H. That doesn't necessarily mean that they are in contact, but he obviously still has issues about that relationship that he needs to work out within himself.

Reading your recent posts and your H behavior reminded me of the book "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus". How men when they have a problem need time alone to think about them and process them and to do that they go off to their "caves" and don't come out and talk about what's bothering them until they are done processing (hence the locked bathroom and sitting in the car). Women on the other hand see that something is wrong and try to find out what it is and talk about it, which makes the man withdraw even more into his cave because he is not ready to talk about it.....

If you didn't read that book get it....it may give you some insight into the male/female communication dynamics.

((((hugs))))