This also holds true for the marriage counseling...
If after you give her your "I finally get it speech".. She could very well say something to you like...
"Well I thought YOU wanted to go to counseling. I TOLD you I was willing to try."...
(this is how they normally respond when YOU finally show them you have given up (or let go or whatever word or phrase you want to call it)....
You THEN have to do this if she says something like that...
"Well WS, I know that is what you said,but I FEEL as if you didn't really mean it sincerely and I finally realize that you were only doing it for me because you probably felt sorry for me because you thought you were hurting me. That isn't good enough for me anymore. How pathetic of me not to see that before. I remember you even said and joke all the time "how you married your "stalker".. I must have been in a fog or a bubble to not see this sooner.. It was me always loving you and you never really loved me the way you wanted to love a man. I will NOT live that way anymore,nor should you. I doubt counseling will work if we both are not totaly going for the right reasons"...
