I don't know what she felt. Maybe that I wouldn't follow through, that maybe I was pursuing her, I don't know. Can't mind read her, and whatever intuition about her that I used to have is gone. She was probably afraid of the idea since it would just be the two of us doing something new and unknown; exactly why I would like to do it.
You had BETTER quickly LEARN how to read women. The SMART man LEARNS how to read women..
YES.. MIND READING...
Learn it. Learn to read what is on the mind of the woman you love. Mindreading only hurts when you don't read it correctly. It HELPS when you know HOW to read their mind. They WANT you to know without having to tell you.
I have known what your wife wants for quite some time. It really isn't that hard to read. She has made it quite clear. You just are not listening and can't face the fact.
Any movie with Richard Gere is not good DBing material.
Maybe you should go watch some Alan Alda flicks.
Rent the "Quiet Man" with John Wayne. Watch how he deals with his woman.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
And you will be a happy man when you figure this out.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
In the Quiet Man there is a great scene when he gives her exactly what she wants. Her response is priceless.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I think mentally you are in an awful place. You are stressing about a relationship as if it was the zombie apocalypse.
3 weeks ago you were trying to get her in bed. 2 weeks ago you asked her to leave cause she wouldnt get in bed. now you are bouncing between noticing unobtainable single moms and unobtainable explanations for why your wife does something.
maybe she is doing it just to mess with your head to see if you flip or flop this time. maybe she is scratching her head just like us wondering why you cannot be stable with your emotions and tought patterns.
now you "impatient" awaiting, hoping this "neutral" 3rd party can solve the problems you should be able to solve yourself. What if they say, "your wife should move out and find herself," are you going to tell us this MC was awful because they repeated what your wife has been telling you all along?
I agree. I'm a basket case.
Last weekend, when I told her she needed to move out, I wasn't doing it because I couldn't get her in bed. It was because none of my pursuing was working; and although I hadn't dropped the rope, I could see and feel that limbo was going to eat me alive if I let it go on.
Then she adroitly played me. Whether consciously or subconsciously, she appealed to my love for her, so that she didn't have to face the consequences of her choices; splitting up the family, financial worries, etc. The only reason she came back that night was fear, she would have agreed to anything then, not just MC. She feels guilt for the situation, she's said that many times.
I'm not expecting the MC to wave a magic wand either. If he says we should separate, it's a done deal.
Once SHE is convinced that you REALLY will give her what she wants.. (OUT) is when you can make some progress...
Go back and read again entire thread from Officer in Need..
He was doing the same silly things you keep trying and doing.. He kept getting the same results you are.. NONE...
You know what people say about people who keep on trying and trying the same things and getting the same results and yet hope for a different one?
When OIN FINALLY listened to ME... YES me... If finally turned back around in his favor. They are NOW reconciling. Thinking about having a baby. On the road to mending a relationship that IF he would have continued on the way he was going was going to destroy any last hope he had of saving it.... (think about that.. because that is YOU right now too)
It was ONLY when he finally told her this.. "WS, I finally get it... You don't love me the way a woman should love her man. I keep trying to win your love and you don't really love me back and are NOT in love with me. I finally get it.. I don't know what has taken me so long.. Guess I need to be hit over the head with a 2x4 sometimes. Well WS, I DO get it now. I am going to stop trying to win you back. I am going to stop trying to show you how much I love you. Matter of fact I don't know how I feel about you anymore either. I agree that this isn't going to work between us because I want to be with a woman who I love and with one who loves me back. It obviously isn't you."
And THEN you follow through on that promise... She has NOW finally felt heard. This is when you MAY get your chance. stop trying the "method of the day" and stick to what works.
I don't know what she felt. Maybe that I wouldn't follow through, that maybe I was pursuing her, I don't know. Can't mind read her, and whatever intuition about her that I used to have is gone. She was probably afraid of the idea since it would just be the two of us doing something new and unknown; exactly why I would like to do it.
You had BETTER quickly LEARN how to read women. The SMART man LEARNS how to read women..
YES.. MIND READING...
Learn it. Learn to read what is on the mind of the woman you love. Mindreading only hurts when you don't read it correctly. It HELPS when you know HOW to read their mind. They WANT you to know without having to tell you.
I have known what your wife wants for quite some time. It really isn't that hard to read. She has made it quite clear. You just are not listening and can't face the fact.
She WANTS out... Give her what she wants.
I think that Gucci is secretly my sister's husband. He's been saying the same thing for two months now. And I've been ignoring him for the same amount of time.
You are going to have to have the gnads to lay the whole relationship on the borderline of being over... A man with the strength to do that is very attractive to a woman... In other words.. STOP CHASING AND move the opposite direction of her... which means to take the same line of reasoning on her that she is with you.." yes, I realize now that it isn't working. I now realize that you are never going to love me back and I now agree that I should stop trying. I don't even know HOW I feel about us or you anymore. I think it would be best if you moved out. I need time to think." (this is YOU speaking those things to HER)
