I think mentally you are in an awful place. You are stressing about a relationship as if it was the zombie apocalypse.
3 weeks ago you were trying to get her in bed. 2 weeks ago you asked her to leave cause she wouldnt get in bed. now you are bouncing between noticing unobtainable single moms and unobtainable explanations for why your wife does something.
maybe she is doing it just to mess with your head to see if you flip or flop this time. maybe she is scratching her head just like us wondering why you cannot be stable with your emotions and tought patterns.
now you "impatient" awaiting, hoping this "neutral" 3rd party can solve the problems you should be able to solve yourself. What if they say, "your wife should move out and find herself," are you going to tell us this MC was awful because they repeated what your wife has been telling you all along?
I agree. I'm a basket case.
Last weekend, when I told her she needed to move out, I wasn't doing it because I couldn't get her in bed. It was because none of my pursuing was working; and although I hadn't dropped the rope, I could see and feel that limbo was going to eat me alive if I let it go on.
Then she adroitly played me. Whether consciously or subconsciously, she appealed to my love for her, so that she didn't have to face the consequences of her choices; splitting up the family, financial worries, etc. The only reason she came back that night was fear, she would have agreed to anything then, not just MC. She feels guilt for the situation, she's said that many times.
I'm not expecting the MC to wave a magic wand either. If he says we should separate, it's a done deal.
