Originally Posted By: Coach
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I mentioned that I was really interested in learning swing dancing, and thought it would be a blast. She said she wasn't interested in spending money on it right now, and then a CB comment that "you couldn't do the lifts..." Such negativity.


So her one little comment threw you off you game? It's her opinion don't take it personal, she could have been saying because she was concerned for health reasons.

"Woman, you have no idea of what I am capable of." That's how you respond to her telling you what Pinhead can do. Never let your woman define you that's your job.

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Not very attractive at all.


How do you think she felt?

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Hard to make "progress" when there's no sign of progress.


"When there is no wind, row."


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As if she's waiting for the MC to wave a magic wand on Monday. I see it as we've wasted another week of our lives living as glorified roommates. Maybe I'm just in a pessimistic funk the last two days.


Lead.

Have you checked out Martin Seligman and Learned Optimism?



wink I said almost exactly what you wanted, Coach. I told her that she'd be surprised at what I could do.

She's very negative generally, and that's a drain on the PMA of everyone around her.

I don't know what she felt. Maybe that I wouldn't follow through, that maybe I was pursuing her, I don't know. Can't mind read her, and whatever intuition about her that I used to have is gone. She was probably afraid of the idea since it would just be the two of us doing something new and unknown; exactly why I would like to do it.

I did read about Learned Optimism last week when you posted it, and found it really interesting. Thoughts -> actions -> emotions is pretty powerful. I wish that I could explain the idea to her, but I think she'd feel it's me trying to change how she feels.

She had expected me to go workout, and said that if I didn't, she might go into work for a few hours. I was too tired to workout, and started a good movie that she actually watched instead of playing solitaire. We shared popcorn. So a movie night. Guess that's rowing a little bit. Just need to keep a PMA!