GR8 - you have been so helpful thus far. Really want to thank you. I posted my story on here, and shortly afterwards...it felt like I had been adopted by you. You have been a great mentor for me lately. Greatly appreciated.
Today marks the first full week that I began detaching myself, it sure isn't easy, nor was I expecting it to be. I had tried this before, months back when I had first read DR. Now I must remain consistant...strong. I have this community now.
I read some success stories, one in particular that I enjoyed was "The DR Saved His Marriage". It brought a few tears to my eyes - that fellow was going through what I had...hurt...devoted to his kids (he did exactly what I did...decorated the kids rooms etc). He was struggling financially, was tough to GAL when your funds are low. But he found ways...his desire for change helped him prevail. His love for his W was true.
I have had little communication with X this week, and if any..it has been strictly about the kids. I keep it brief and to the point...and so does she. So far so good...I think.
It is her B-Day this weekend, and also her weekend to have the kids. I offered to take the kids for a bit in case she wanted to go out. I did not "push" the offer on her. My exact words "your birthday is this weekend..not sure if you intend on going out to celebrate..but if you do..I am available to take the kids". She declined and told me she had already made arrangements with the kids, but thanked me anyhow. I left it at that. Thats a 180 for me right there! Normally I would pressure her to help out...or try and keep the conversation going.
I would like to get her something for the B-Day, from the kids. She got me a coffee mug from the kids on my b-day. Should I keep it as simple as that for her? Its very tough for me not to get her a something with a little meaning.
