Before I left to pick up the kids, W shows up with them at the old house. S wants to ride with me to his new school. He starts to cry about the fact that Daddy is not staying at the new house. I picked him up held him, and said daddy is staying at a new house too, he can stay with daddy whenever you want, I am here for you. I started to get choked up, and cheered him up with picking up a cherry limeade from sonic on the way to school. I told the W that S wanted to drive with me and I would meet her there.
We showed up at the school went through the orientation, and took his supplies to his cubby. W said she had an appt. at 5 it was already 4:30 SO i told her she should probably go. Which she did, and I took the kids to the gym. I told her I would check the kids in at church for my group meeting and she could pick them up there.
On my way to church which the group started at &, got a call from the W around 6:40 she said her 6 oclock cancelled and I said why dont I meet you somewhere to drop off the kids. She asked me if I could take them to church so she could go tan, I said sure.
I checked the kids in, and texted the W that she could pick them up, and if she needed the id tickets she could text me when she got there and I would come out to the looby or she could just give them the code and get the kids. During the group she texted me and said Im here, I met her in the lobby and she asked which room they were in, i started to think just go and ask, she can figure it out, but instead I said they are in the last room on the left, after that I went back to group.
I went with a couple of guys to get something to eat afterwards, and met up with some ladies. No contact from W, which is what I expected. But talking to the ladies, 1 of them is going through a D, the other has been separated from her H for 5 months. I pretty much spoke with the separated one for most of the night. She said her H neglects her, is arrogant and doesnt give a crap. She has been separated for 5 months and still calls him daily. So I told her he still feeels like you are there, no matter what. I said you need to go dark, and expressed more DB tactics to her. She will start them or not, but it felt good to pass on to someone what I have done before and what new things I have learned.
I dont know the plan for the kids this weekend, but i will let the W initiate any talks about that. I am going to move stuff to the other house, and some stuff in storage.
While at the school orientation I was playful with the kids and chipper, the W was a little grumpy. I keep phone and text conversations short, not angry or mean just the facts.
