Allen, you told me so.

[Piano]

Okay I completely agree about the respect thing.

I have lost sight of that because of my co/over-dependency on my relationship with WH.

He has treated me and his baby like rubbish, for whatever reason (you are right, we don't CARE why), and I have enabled that.

I have not LED.

I have let him lead with his terrible, chaotic, irresponsible behaviour. I kept thinking that I was dealing with my H, but I was dealing with an ALIEN; or to put that another way - a man who had lost his feelings of love for me. I allowed social pressure (or perceived social pressure) to get in the way of my better judgement. Call it Mother's Guilt, or call it Piano Guilt.. whatever.

Okay, he's gone now Allen.

So the deed is done.

On my thread in Newcomers, we have decided that NC is the best way to go. Make him work for news.

I am sure the next email I will get will be in the next few days/weeks to enquire about the baby's recent heath checkup (she has a little issue, not worth going into here).

I don't see how much LEVERAGE I am going to have to "stand UP for your MARRIAGE at EACH CHANCE you HAVE in EACH interaction... to get a consistent message across about BOUNDARIES" when all our communication now will be email.....

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