Her body image is, I am sure, a part of it. She's about 60 lbs heavier than she feels she should be, and feels largely incompetent because she feels like she isn't doing anything right.
One of my favorite Dr. Laura episodes was when a woman called in and told Dr. Laura that her husband was overweight and wanted to loose weight. She said that she figured out a way to motivate her husband. She told him that for every 5 pounds he lost he could choose another "outfit" for her to wear in the bedroom. He positively was driven to loose weight after that.
In a similar vein I have talked to my wife and asked if there was any kind of "reward" I could provide her like a pedicure, wardrobe, or special weekend at a local downtown hotel. So far she has resisted the offer for rewards, but when I notice she has lost weight or dropped a dress size, I suggest we celebrate in some way.
You might see what you can do to help support your wife in her weight loss goals.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
