Is the man I used to know re-emerging?

[goodattitudegirl]

CW and SA, thanks for your encouragement and support. I REALLY appreciate it!

......even if H has OW doesn't mean he's happy and content with her. She could be a security for him now as he continues to sort himself out....... Just a thought

Like what Jody said about patience. My DB coach said patience was the greatest asset and anger the greatest enemy in the situation.
Cas

Cas, I agree with what you wrote above. I am watching your situation because it seems we may be in a similar place right now. I read Freckle's most recent thread this afternoon. Interesting to see how their reconnection unfolded over several months.

........so Lance's post (below) made me think about how I might be able to get some of the 'facts' he referred to.

I would keep watching and listening to see if your intuition is correct.
You could be wrong.
But maybe not.
Don't rush to judgement until you have the facts.

Thought I would start out small and try to elicit an email convo with XH to take his emotional temperature. Long story short, XH told me where he is going on vacay/work trip but didn't give me any additional info about the trip. He also told me that he hasn't been feeling well the last couple days (stomach ache and headache ---- might be stress ---- he had symptoms like these during the separation due to stress) and that he is leaving saturday (if he feels well enough), but returning thursday morning..........so that means at most 2 days of fun, since Mon thru Wed most likely involve sales calls. To me that sounds much less like a trip with a new OW.......... He signed several of his emails with the first letter of his name, which was a special little intimate thing we always did (so signing Mr. GAG (full name) was an aberration after all. YEAH!!!!) ............AND.........to top it all off, he sent me a little .avi movie from an iPhone app called 'Talking Tom' in which a cartoon tabby cat speaks a message that the sender recorded. Mr. GAG's message was: "Hello GAG. You're a monkey!" I know that this sounds silly and stupid, but it is the first time in a long time that XH has addressed me by my name (albeit channeled through an animated cartoon tomcat ............AND...this phrase is a sweet, funny, little endearment that he used to say to me a lot when we were really happy together. So all in all, I am feeling better about where XH and I are for the time being. Thanks everyone for helping me to keep from losing my cool!

I offered to visit XH's mother a couple times while he is out of town. Wasn't sure if this was the right thing to do, but I thought that if he WAS going out of town with a new OW, that would keep me on his mind.......and if he WASN'T going out of town with a new OW, he would appreciate the gesture from a friend.

GAG