H actually asked me if I wanted to go with him to college town to see D. I was suprised...he actually wants me to go??? wow. He's been acting all nice too. Told D (and she then told me) on the phone that things were going better - that he felt more positive and that 20 years WAS a long time to throw away without trying... On the flipside, he also commented that right now we are "more like roommates" and that's not really where I want his head at!
SO: hmmmm: why hasn't he said these things to me but only to her is the question. I suppose it's possible he just wants her to feel better about being gone but his actions back up his statements.
Also, I asked him if he wanted to go to a concert with me this coming week that I have tickets for. We've gone several times to see this group in the past and both enjoyed it. Said I wanted him to have first dibs if he wanted to come along before I invited someone else. He said he'd go.
Now - we still have a long way to go, but the changes seem positive. Of course, I don't want some weird "lets be friends in the same house but not really have a marriage" scenerio. It doesn't feel that way, but it's possible that's where he is at and is still not committed. I thought, strategically, it best to give him a little bit more time with the positivity before bringing up the aforementioned ultimatum of working on the M or getting out.
