My Rollercoaster Continues

[Truegritter]

and I feel angry.

Really? I couldn't tell from all your posts here 2.

Guess what? H can tell too?

And

b/c we're only married on paper as he says. And the whole "respecting the marriage" was only in place while we were separated but living under the same roof.

This ^^^^^ is why he doesn't give a rats patooty.

To me an affair is grounds for not fixing things,

That's good because you know why?

YOU CAN"T FIX THINGS

You can only control you.

Yeah we argued, b/c neither one of us put the other person as a priority after a while.

Ok so you do recognize you may have a part in this...

I should have read the fine print in my marriage vows to know he'd bail when things got tough.

Well what does it say?

When your H is screwed up and lost

You are going to leave?

You're going to feel sorry for yourself and blame all your unhappiness on him?

I can find someone who respects me. .....

Not until you realize that your respect comes from inside you.

Look your H is having an A. He is running from you and the M becuase only he knows why.

He doesn't want the M right now.

Things suck right now.

Your angry.

So if you want to contnue chasing your tail here then be my guest.

You are NOT a victim here

YOU are volunteering for all this crap.

Think about what I just said to you because

YOU control all that crap up there because you are letting it happen to you.

We have already told you what to do.

Read your thread.

All your answers are there.

If you continue this pity party

book your one way ticket to bittersville.

And get on the bus.