Dropping in on your thread, Faith. What is the timeline of events on your situation? When did you do your compulsive gameplaying and your wife begin to detach emotionally? When did your wife move out, file, etc.?
I agree with all the good advice on here re: focusing on taking care of yourself and bettering yourself. It's never too late for you. Maybe your W will see it and be lured back, maybe not. Either way, you can make your life much better than it was a couple of years ago or even today.
I'll add some info to my sig file sometime this week.
Brief recap: W and I have been married 7 yrs, Together for 11 yrs, Very close for 14 yrs, known each other for 19 yrs. I get lost in timelines lol.
In hindsight, I started emotionally detaching 3 years ago. She really detached from me in 08/2009; She moved out in June; We filed for Divorce 08/06/2010; Official D-Day is 9/30/10.
My compulsive gameplaying began 3 and half years ago. Heavy drinking and cigarretes along with it. It was an escape from what I thought was "Never" making her happy and viewing her as always messed up. After reading all the books and the great support on this site, it's really made me aware of my "bigger" issues. Alcholism, Addictive nature, and passive-aggressivness is the REAL issues that got me where I am today. All of it from lack of father-male role model and an Alcoholic mother.
I stopped drinking in mid-July, quitting smoking currently, and getting a life. W is incredibly angry, but shows signs of caring but I have a lot of work to do on myself and an incredible amount of time ahead before I think she would ever be interested in me again.
Basically fixing myself and lovingly detaching from her.
You can check out my "Enlightening" post...I journal there now and would be happy to have any visitors.
