I didn't do it to impress her, or to make her fall for me. I just think it's good manners, gentlemanly, and that's how I'm behaving for ME. She didn't seem offended at all, said thanks.
Then make sure you do all your chivalrous deeds for any damsel in need. Do you see the point Gucci is making - being attractive or looking needy/clingy/weak is dependent on how a woman feels about you? Just because it used to work doesn't mean it is the right time now. Ever had a cat bite you while you were petting it and it jumped in your lap? That's not what a dog would do, learn how to listen to cats. Don't chase a cat.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I see his point. I don't know that it "worked" in the past, I'm not trying to make it work now. If she has a problem with it, she can tell me not to do it, and I'll respect that.
I'm noticing how she reacts to me, but I'm not worrying about her as much anymore. She has her own path to choose; I hope it's with me and our kids, but if not, life goes on.
Read a part of "Too Nice For Your Own Good" over my lunch break. Good book, a bit wordy, but some good advice especially about the dangers of being a "rescuer."
Can anyone offer some good advice about MC? I have a good, pro-marriage counselor we'll be seeing on Monday. After the last counselor, I'm trying to think about issues that are important to me, how to act, etc. The main thing I want to do is listen without trying to explain or argue about things. Any advice would be great.
Came home to a nice spaghetti dinner with the family. W had the day off. She saw my pants hanging on one of the chairs in the dining room and asked if they needed to be taken in. I said no, they just needed to be ironed, and I didn't have time last night. She said I should have told her, and she would have done it for me. She hasn't ironed my clothes in ten years...
Dinner was good, with our Ds telling us about their first day of school. W didn't talk too much, and after dinner she spent most of the evening playing solitaire on her iPad.
I went to work out, and on the way to the gym stopped at a hardware store to pick up some part for repairing my daughter's favorite lamp that had been broken. Figured electrical stuff can't be that hard, and it was pretty easy to fix the lamp. She'll be delighted in the morning!
Not a bad day by any measure, but compared to what I want out of life, I'd give it a C-
Not a bad day by any measure, but compared to what I want out of life, I'd give it a C-
This might be a good time to reread MWD's books ... especially the part about realistic expectations. Also I like her advice ... what would you be doing today if your life was just how you want it? Ok, then go do it ... stuff like that.
Chin up ... keep moving forward ... PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Just dropping by your thread. You seem to be doing pretty good so far reading from front to end. You are only 2 months in from the bomb it seems, and I see lots of positive trends/changes. Some DB mistakes, but we're all guilty of those and move forward, right?
When is the new MC starting?
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