I hear you, Puppy. I don't think I've reached that point (yet?) because she sent me a sweet thank you card for the stuff I did helping her over the surgery and even when I left last night on not so good terms she thanked me for the stuff I had done before I left.

I get that she has to retain respect for me and not see me as her lackey or boy valet or some groveling, not self-respecting, do gooder that will do anything because I NEEEEEEED her. To help me corral this possibility, I actually just ordered NUTS earlier today (I heard that one is helpful in this respect, right?). Supposed to arrive on Saturday.

Thanks much for your reading and feedback. I'll update soon and will keep being the 180ing, helpfully responsive, GALing for self, validating tortoise.

Me-53
W-49
D22,D18,D15
T-Since-12/2001
Married-9/2004
She Moved Out-5/28/2010
Piecing start-04/2011
Now-together
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