It has been my experience on this planet that what women SAY they want, and what they TRULY want (or at least what will make them happy and fulfilled), are not the same thing.
A bit of a generalization there Puppy, not so?
Of course, which is why I very purposely prefaced it with the "it's been my experience" part. I'm hardly a representative sample.
I'm not saying ALL women are like that, but -- like you -- I do believe that men are women are wired very differently (the "Mars and Venus" book is one of the Top 1 to 3 books that I recommend to people, esp. MEN!!), and I do think that the MAJORITY of women do posess something in them that basically says "I know I said I wanted that, but I actually need you to call me on my bullchit sometimes."
Many women CLAIM they want the guy as described in "No More Mr. Nice Guy." Then when they have him, they find him boring and unattractive and they lose respect and -- ultimately -- interest.