I hope I didnt do much damage by asking about things last night
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Thank you He said he werent mad or upset by me asking. And I did get a kiss goodbye this morning before he went to work.
I remember telling him last night when he came home and gave me a kiss that I was glad he was home, that I missed him. He gave me a surprised look and said "really?"
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I hope I didnt do much damage by asking about things last night
He probably won't remember anyway.
Haha!! You are SO right about that...he has that short term memory going.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
But although you are allowed no expectations, if I were you I would expect a lot more weird things to happen. Just roll with the punches and don't take it out on him.
Withdrawal is different, that what you have been doing.
Full disclosure up front - I do not know your entire sitch however - Sorry but I see MAJOR red flags here of OW contact. Locking himself in the bathroom, texting late into the evening and not wanting you to see, sitting in the car by himself on the premise that the kids are on his nerves. This man is in contact with someone that he doesn't want you to know about and based on his past you have every right to question him on it. Do not apologize or feel bad because you questioned him - in my book it wasn't a mistake. I suspect he didn't want to see your phone because he would feel like he needed to reciprocate and he definitely doesn't want you knowing who he's in communication with.
Thanks BA. I agree he was texting someone he didnt want me to know about. It may have been innocent, but I dont know that. I really do not believe it was the OW who he had a relationship with when we were separated though.
I do see red flags too, thats why I questioned him. I do have my guard up. I did ask why he had the door locked. He said he needed some alone time to think. He didnt want us (me or the kids) going in there and bothering him during that time. I have a feeling he is talking to someone I wouldnt approve of. Thats why he was so defensive. If he wasnt telling me the truth, at least he knows Im not blind to noticing things when they arent right.
Will see where this goes, but I am going to do my best to be patient. I havent gone through 3 and a half years of this to just give up now! But Im to the point that if he left again...things would be completely different.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I disagree but never say never. He is still like a teenager. He wants his privacy. He shuts the door because he is WITHDRAWN. I understand that part totally. He doesn't want anyone bothering him. Like I said he, could go backwards but I think he could also go forwards.
I agree with BA about being vigilant, until he is done with his crisis but I don't think you should press him. What will that accomplish? If he leaves then you will find out soon enough.
True....I feel like Im torn. It could be withdrawal, but then again, he could be talking to someone he doesnt want me to know about, possible a OW. They both make sense.
I agree that pressing him would accomplish nothing...but also, I dont want to look like a fool. I will remain quiet for now and like you said, I will find out soon enough.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
