I also can't seem to stop defending myself either.
If she is telling you how you feels or what she thinks then let it be and agree with her. It's her choice how she thinks and what she feels.
If she tells you what you think/feel/believe or has behavior that is unacceptable then you bring it up.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
