To Tell or Not to Tell

[A_goodman]

LRT,

I have a slightly different take. I usually do;)

My first thought was: CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!

I know you weren't palnning on this, AND that it is a really inconvenient time, AND that it may further complicate everything about life including your R. But you know what? You are a good Mother. You love your DD and she has been the one shining bright spot in your life. She is an unending, unconditional source of love for you. Whatever happens betwen you and H will happen. I hope and pray that you continue to make strides and have a long happy new life together, but either way the future keeps marching on. Another child will be a lifelong blessing to you. It will be really hard, but you can do it and do it well.

I don't want to sound too pollyannaish, but a child IS a blessing and God has his reasons. Embrace this. Cherish this. If you believe it's a miracle, accept it as such and be thankful for it.

First off, RELAX then relax some more. Make a plan (calmly). I would not bring it up until after the medical confirmation. He knows your age. I don't see how he can think it was intentional on your part, plus it takes two to make a baby. If he was worried about it he could have taken precautions. Besides, it's possible that he will be moved the other way. Whatever you do don't try to mindread now.

I hope you took my 2 cents in stride. If not, well I'm obviously an idiot anyway, so just blow it off.

BTW, my second thought was that I felt honored that you shared this with us. Like it or not, We are your friends and will be here for you.

((((((LRT))))))) Much love girl