Dan - I've been reading your posts for quite a while, and have posted only once I think.
I want you to know something. The way you are handling yourself at this point is impressive. I am proud of how well you are doing and how much you care about your kids. Most women would be thrilled to be with such a caring, sincere man. You are an inspiration.
If I had one wish for everyone here, it's that their WAS would see in their LBS spouse what the rest of us see without even having met them.