So with this in mind I draw boundaries that say I will not accept that kind of behavior. I will not be friends with someone who treats me like that. I will be pleasant and civil toward her but I will not treat her as I would treat a friend. I will do my best to be this way especially for my children. If she pulls unacceptable behavior toward me I will call her on it. I will protect my boundaries because I know I am worth protecting. If her behavior changes, I will change my behavior and boundaries accordingly.
LOVE THIS!!
Originally Posted By: Steady
I would want to be treated the way I deserved to be treated. If I'm being a smuck I would want to be treated as a person who is being a smuck. If I'm out of line I want to be called on it. If I'm being selfish I want to be treated as someone who is behaving that way. To me, that's taking full responsibility for myself.
Very nice, Steady. Gonna "Sticky that sucka" on my mirror, too. Interesting how if everyone set proper boundaries, the world would have a built in "self-correcting attitude adjustment" mechanism.
You're bein' a d1ck? I'm calling you on and I'll expect the same, thank you.
Everyone wins.
I never saw the reciprocity benefit of boundaries before.
