STILL fighting for M & H

[holdingon]

Cindy,
You want this, I know that. You want it to happen with all of your heart. I understand. But you cannot force the issue. You cannot force your H to feel, or turn off feelings. You cannot analyze everything he does. It is making you crazy.

Your H tells you he needs some space and you extrapolate that to mean he will always need space.

You have said many times you have not been working on this very long at all, what 3 weeks. Give it time. Give it time.

Think... where am I now compared to three weeks ago.

You cannot rush this. This IS difficult.

Do not have R talks... Do not tell him your feelings, not yet. Do not think you will never be able to have R talks. Do not think you will never be able to share your feelings.

Let your H lead... give him all the space he needs. Your feelings, right now, are not the most important thing to him, his are.

I've been too focused on him. I'm going out tonight with friends and having FUN! I'm not going to worry about him or our r for one night! I'm taking a break from being his w tonight!

Absolutely! And make a habit of it!