"I need a decision on where you stand in our marriage because I have some decisions to make."
You need to send a message that you are serious and this R with the OW is unacceptable. He's either in or out, you already know your actions based on his answer. It's his choice on what he does. You are not controlling him.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
