I feel like every time I have a talk with h about how I feel...it is over. I'm expecting the attorney to let me know he wants the divorce. This has been his behavior.
I was not rude, I tried to validate, I tried to explain my b***hing was not meant to be (I had asked why he got into to bed and immediately turned his back to me? is that b****ing?), I didn't yell or cry. But still I had to go away like some bad child because I had needs that were putting pressure on him. Like his needs don't do that to me! I was so accomodating yet I'm in the doghouse.
Quote: Your H is hanging in there and you want more than that. I know the feeling. Things that he says sounds like he really does not care, but I don't think that's the case at all.
Then why does he let me go away upset?
Quote: Things ARE progressing, it just feels like it's not sometimes and we get very frustrated with all this.
I feel as though the progression was all false cause what he really felt was not how he acted. How can I live with someone that puts up a facade? I don't know what side of the coin I'm going to get!...at any given time. It's just plain scary and unsettling!
Quote: That, and I am really getting so tired of his procrastination, so I told him I would not live like this forever, and that I NEED to be wanted and loved just as he NEEDED it when he had the A.
My h didn't have an a though he admits to dating op. But like you I have needs that are not getting met or are but only once a month. Or if they are like our dates he acts like he's getting his teeth pulled without novacaine. Boy that makes me feel loved!
Quote: Stay with it girl, and keep giveing it your best shot.
I've been too focused on him. I'm going out tonight with friends and having FUN! I'm not going to worry about him or our r for one night! I'm taking a break from being his w tonight!
