Quote: I wonder if when he tells you to relax he means that he feels he is only asking you for some space... not a D.
He didn't come out and say he wants the d...he'd usually call my lawyer not tell me. He doesn't tell me...he just explodes on me. So what do I do? Wait for the call from the attorney? I guess all I can do it wait...cause he won't call me to say anything.
Quote: That he wants to be able to have some space, and to ask you for that space and expect you not to become upset.
I just don't get the need for space. Hasn't he had that already this past year? I feel like I'm heading down that road where he will always need space and thus avoid and continue to not be a dad or husband. I don't want to drag this out for another year while he plays this "I need my space" bit. It is hard for me too but I want to take the bull by the horns, deal with it, learn to interact differently, be happy together....not continue to drag this out by avoiding each other when it gets too hard.
Quote: try not to take his telling you he needs a bit of space personal...
All I see is selfishness. And I feel as though he did this because he has been mad at me all week. He's getting me back. He says he has concern for me but he didn't care that I was upset. Did even try to find out what I meant...he just said relax.
And even though he may have the intention of coming back why is he doing all the little things that confuse it? Like keeping the receipts for his purchases, not wanting to go out with me, being rude, not talking, not caring how I feel, no ILY. I mean if you KNOW what your s wants to be happy, why do you NOT do it? It's so easy....why can't he just try to even talk to me about what bothers him. This bid for space I feel had everything to do with revenge and selfishness.
I don't have time for that now. To go put my heart on my sleeve then get it pummeled just because he knows I don't want a d...gives him the right to do anything he wants to me? That is how this episode feels when he holds back from telling me how upset he really was.
I even asked if he could go out alone, let off steam. Tried to do something new so than when we do live together this would be a new way to handle his stress, show I recognized his stress and was ok with him going out. But he just choose to kick us out. I even offered to clean up his place while he was at work so he wouldn't have to worry about it.
I guess it was all about getting away from me and that hurts cause I don't know what I did wrong!
