Quote: I need help on this cause as I'm trying to turn my behavior into the opposite of what it was....like once I always let him initiate sex, now I attack, once I used to always talk away, now I attempt to draw him into the conversation, waiting patiently for him to answer, etc.
Cindy, a Martian approach, list 10 things you want him to change, and have him list 10 things he wants you to change. Doing 180s at random, is doom to failure, because it is hit and miss. Why do things that are not on the list. Review the list together and sort them by order of priority, and work on #1 only.
Review the love bank concept with him, and use it.
