No ropes. Let her think about what she really wants and do not pursue her. Let her come to you to talk about the relationship and then listen, validate her feelings and empathize with her. DO NOT try to fix anything for her. Just let her know that you understand how she feels and accept it. Then, make the changes you need to make on your own and let her notice them.
This is hard to do. I failed miserably at first and have paid for it.
