New here but learning slowly. Advice appreciated

[Albuquerque]

Journaling

Well, I received some bad news this week. I'll be forced to go part time and will, as a result, lose insurance and benefits. So that stinks. Fortunately, I have been doing a lot of relief work (I'm a veterinarian and can take over shifts for other clinics) and that is lucrative and makes scheduling around school easier. But I still need to work on the logistics of getting D home on time. Haven't quite figured that all out yet. So in the end, I might end up making more, but I'll have to pay for insurance out of pocket so it might end up a wash.
My H knew I was meeting with my boss the day of the news but didn't bother asking me about the meeting so I didn't tell him. I knew I'd have to eventually because he's still on my insurance plan. Well, the next day (yesterday), he arrived at our house so that we could go as a family to take my D to her freshman orientation in high school. There was also an orientation for parents. My H was really down and tired. He said that he'd ended up sleeping most of the previous day and was still tired. He mentioned several times that he was "broken". I told him I was sorry he wasn't feeling well and let him know that although there wasn't anything I thought I could do, to let me know if he needed anything. He seemed appreciative but still down. He mentioned that he had a doctor's appt and that's when I mentioned my news. It really seemed to hit him hard. Harder than I think it hit me. On the drive home, he asked me if I was still seeing an IC (I had told him I was several months back). I let him know that it had been a while but yes. He asked if it helped and I said yes, it was good to have a "sounding board". I left it at that.
This morning he let me know that he had similar sleep issues again so at 4 am finally started reading the Midlife crisis book I had recommended to him weeks ago. I didn't ask what he thought and he didn't really say other than to say he wasn't expecting it to go into Jungian archetypes. I know this goes against the general recommendation for MLC (Kids, Don't do this at home!). But as I mentioned earlier in my post, given what I know about my H, I felt it was the right choice and I stand by the decision. He talked more about how my job news. He wants to start taking guitar lessons again (MLC anyone?) but now doesn't think its a good idea because of my news. I didn't go into the strangeness of the fact that he just weeks ago was talking about separating our finances and separating in general, and now he's worrying about what HE will do based on my salary issues. Once again, I'm thankful that I have a H that has not completely abandoned us financially. It's clear he's torn. I told him when he asked a few weeks ago, that I'll sit down with him whenever, to go over separating finances. I've even made a spreadsheet with the finances and how separation could/might work. But he's not made the request yet so I'm just sitting on it.
As for me, now I have to struggle with whether to bring up the option of keeping him on the insurance if I get a new plan. It would clearly be the cheaper way to go but also goes against his general "separation" plans. I still have a few weeks to make plans about that so I'll feel it out at that point. He may bring it up himself, who knows.
We're having a family dinner tonight (his idea) to mark our D first day of HS today. Should be interesting as always.