My h has been in a mood since last night. I tried to ask what was wrong, if he was mad, he responded with a I don't know so I didn't push. Well today he says I and the boys need to go home, he needs a break. He's feeling pressured. (he wanted to have his place clean when he went to bed and when he got home and though he had the kids he didn't ask them to clean up, he seemed to imply that I needed to take care of it. I said well I can do that just tell me what you expect from us. In the past he gets upset with me cleaning his place because he wants it done a certain way...once again doesn't say how just gets mad. Then he says don't clean while watching the movie, but then says you could but you are too slow)
I said how can he need a break...hasn't the year of separation been a break? If he can't handle being with us for 3 days, how will he just suddenly be able to adjust by moving in with us right away cold turkey?
I told him I was just very confused. I said I want very much to do what makes you happy...why can't you say you want things? why do you get mad, stay mad and leave me to figure it out? It makes me crazy. He said told me to relax.
He was flat out rude. I said how can you be rude to someone you are starting a new r with? I don't understand.
I said you get so angry when I tell you what I want, how I feel, that we have no time to really talk. He said well you could talk when we go to dinner, I said you give indications that you don't want to hear anything I say and plus dinner shouldn't be a place to talk about r...what about just fun conversation.
I ended up just leaving. I called back, said I didn't like how our conversation ended and that is when he said to relax, bye. How can I relax when he does one thing but acts another way? Or says we one time with a bunch of Is next time! He treats me so rudely.
Gosh this crap is too hard. I'm in a minefield full of explosives while my h stands there watching me and not saying a damn thing! How can I work with this? He waits to get mad at me or kick me out of his apartment without any warning. If this is how it will be, tension will always be with me. I just dread being around him just because of episodes like this one. He sees nothing wrong with it though...I just need to relax.
