Depends on whether or not this agreement is something YOU need at this point (to stem financial bleeding, for instance), or is it just a lesser-step in something that SHE claims to want (divorce).
What do YOU want/need at this point, Khudoo?
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I dont really need it and if i pushed it I would only be doing it to show her i want to get on with things
What i want is my W back but that is something I realize may never happen and so i am prepared to get on with my life without her.
i know we are going to sell the house and separate. things are not too bad at home right now so I am undecided whether pushing her out the door is the right thing to do. i have made it quite clear that I am ok with separation on any timeline and maybe that is enough.
I bumped into one of her friends ( that i absolutely trust and has been very supportive in us staying together ) last night and she opened up a discussion on our sitch. She just said even though W is going full steam ahead she doesn't really know what she is doing and is a mess right now. She certainly hides that well with me. She also said she initially thought there was an OM involved as that would have explained things but doesn't anymore.
The only thing i have noticed is that she seems to go right to the edge of making some non reversible decision and then goes quiet and doesn't follow through.
Personally I think the only chance we have of reconnecting is if we vacation later in the year as that will give us some alone time in a non stressful environment. Till then I just need to try and get her out of my mind as much as possible and consider her GONE to me
