INTERESTED IN MLC FOR LBS

[cat04]

I am learning alot and I am sure I had been part of our problem. I will continue to dig deeper.

I hope so. Listen to Mach. Think about what he has said, and don't skirt the issues. This answer, needs more...

I know some people indicate that I should not be rude or harsh and others say I should.

Rude and harsh? Would you return to someone who is rude and harsh to you? I wouldn't. Especially after I had made the decision to be done. That sort of behavior, is reinforcing of her choice.

Don't reinforce her choice with your behaviors and words unless you want to be divorced.

In closing, has anyone heard of the 40 day plan related to a recent movie? My brother mentioned it to me yesterday and suggested I see the movie, the name escapes me at present.

The name of the movie is Fireproof. The plan is Love Dare.

Excellent movie, but if you put it into practice with a MLCer, a few things could happen...

One, you are pushing and that always works in the opposite direction than we want. They will run further and faster.

Second, the changes, will seem fake. And MLCers can smell fake and phony changes a mile away.

As well as changes that are done purely to save the M, such as altering your work schedule to be home more, when that schedule apparantly was good enough for you for years.

Translates into, "home more because he wants to be able to see and know every move I make, that controlling b'tard..."

Watch the movie. You will learn from it. Not how to save your M, but how to look in side.