I do not know whether your EXH is in another R or not. However what I will say, is that we do have to keep our expectations at zero, and although you have this intuition, it is also somewhat an expectation. I think if he does have an OW it will become obvious as time goes along. However it does not mean that he is not peeking out of the tunnel looking at you! You must remain a safe place for him to land.
Jody gave you some good ideas. See how they turn out. I think it is good that you wrote them down here since you will be less likely to forget what was said, plus it reinforces the ideas.
I think that you are doing fine and paving the way back to you.
