Staying focused is a conscious choice. Don't let distractions with your sitch affect what you choose to do. You'll get through this without her, and if things change, you'll be so much stronger for all this pain.
I am registered with so many temporary agencies. I have more success with some than others.
Her first payment was due at the time of the hearing. The judge made the order to her verbally, but it was never put into writing.
My attorney told me to give her nothing, and I plan to do just that. He is the one I will listen to before her.
It is a very serious issue, and my attorney and I will be discussing tomorrow what is the next step for me in my sitch.
I am glad you posted to me today.
Thank you very much!
I will teach you a little trick. You can easily destroy and cause a under-funded plaintiff to drop their action by repeatedly bringing motions before the court. You can also cause unnecessary expense by delaying payment till the steps of the court house on the day of the hearing. You can also cause numerous problems with someone's career or brand new job by continually rescheduling court appearances at the last minute.
I agree with the above. And I see that in a more clear fashion now then I ever did. My H had a snake of an attny and that is exactly what he did. He knew I was very ill during our litigation and in a very severe health crises and he used that to his advantage. Or I should say he tried to. Thankfully I chose an attny who had next to no tolerance for attnys like my H had.
It's unfortunate but you are not in a position of power now and you are going to have to REALLY figure out how to change that very, very soon. Without a job, an income, the ability to support your children, a vehicle of your own and a NON aggressive attny (not sure how aggressive your attny is but he/she sounds pretty passive) your W will continue to roll you. That is evident by her having her boyfriend bring her home to the place she lives with her husband and children.
Your W's actions don't shock me much as my H was very much the same way. He seemed to feel the COURTS decisions were not something he really had to follow if he didn't feel like it. The fact that your W had the balls to show up at a hearing w/o an attny speaks volumes on how little she is concerned about being held accountable for anything.
I would be VERY clear with your W and give her one warning...
W: if the money you are required to give me for spousal support is not in my hand by the close of business today I will move forward with legal action and ANY opportunity to further discuss our final settlement/dissolution will no longer exist.
Do not argue, be an ass or anything else when you say this. If she does not comply have her wages garnished tomorrow (or get that ball in motion).
You are going to have to get VERY tough and move towards a role your W is not used to seeing you in.
W: if the money you are required to give me for spousal support is not in my hand by the close of business today I will move forward with legal action and ANY opportunity to further discuss our final settlement/dissolution will no longer exist.
You are both right. I am in a sh!tty situation, and it is going to become that much harder for me. I have to be harda$$ from here on out. I am doing everything to change my position as fast as possible.
Thanks for keeping me focused on what I need to do.
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S's birthday was nice for everyone today. I am glad that I managed to scrap together with 3 different credit cards enough for lunch and to buy him a cake for his bday. He was very happy, and he liked my tackle box very much. He said I could use it too. I thanked him. He was surprised I gave him everything inside of it too. My parents are sending him a fishing pole and a little something for D too. She will be happy.
W came home between 7:30 to 8:00 pm.
Kids asked where her wedding ring was, and she said she forgot to wear it. I am glad she doesn't. It was diamond of my great aunts, and she is not worthy of it. To bad I will never get it back. Maybe by luck she will give it to our D.
Laundry is so high now, and it will take so many loads to do.
I will be talking to my attorney tomorrow for sure, and I will see what I can do about this horrible situation that I am living in right now.
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I'm glad your son liked his b'day present. You knew that he would. And he's willing to share it with you. That's great! Time to go fishing! I would love to come out there to some of those big bass lakes and try my hand at catching a 10 pounder. Of course, for your son, any time spent with dad is a good time.
I know you are in a bad spot now. I can't imagine what you are going through. Talk to your A and get things set right. You and your kids deserve so much better.
Remember, your kids need you, not a lot of money for you to spend on them. I know you need the basics like food and stuff to survive. I wish I had some answers for you. Take control back from you W and make it happen.
Tell your son happy b'day for me and give him a big hug from uncle IDU!
Hey LSG, Glad your S's b-day went well!! Just have the best time with your kids when your with them. Trust me I know about the $!!
I scrap my cards togeather as well each month. That's why I still do laundry at the house. Hang in there. My sisuation with W was weird awkward yesterday.. I'll fill ya in later . Gotta get back to work later
