Anybody out there who can talk a minute?

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So, Pup, your logic would say that there's no such thing as a person who had only one affair? I expect that you could find a whole lot of folks on this sight alone who had one and only one affair. Sometimes, as Frank writes, it's an addiction, other times it's not. Plus you write that affairs/addictions don't resolve by themselves. True. Both take a hell of a lot of work.

In any case, as Michele writes, the way to put a marriage back together is not by focusing on the problem, whether it's an affair or whatever, that's a waste of time, focus on the solution. I'm here to tell ya, she's right about that. We've had a lot of good years post affair. Many people do! although I'll also tell you that when I first found out about it I'd never have believed that all our healing was possible and it did take a long, long time. Obviously healing from an affair doesn't fix everything or I wouldn't be here. There are lots of problems couples can have besides affairs.