Mystik, I've read everyone of your posts since I first started coming to these boards, I admired the commitment you displayed for you H from the start till today. I'm really not the best for advice since I'm in a similar sitch.(I don't want to sign or get divorced) but I've agreed with her, I'm giving her the divorce. Not only for her but for myself. She hasn't changed nor will she anytime soon, has you H changed at all? Do you really want him how he's maliciously hurting you? You have to stop wanting what he could be, see how he is right now. Give him his D but on your terms. You've tried everything else to let him know how you felt and you wanted to work it out, but it's been your desire not his. If you love him as much as you say you do(too put up with all this crap) give him the D let him feel he's free and let reality come back on his ass. I do empathize with you on not feeling complete their was a lot I had planned with my W but life changes people change. Their a tons of men who'd love to have a woman who'd be their and not believe divorce is an acceptable solution. Just for the moment things that we had planned in life get sidetracked. Like wine great things come in time, as with what goes around always comes around. Wish him the best and remember if it's meant to be it will be if not something greater is only a step ahead.
