Keep in mind that thee is not much you could have said when the bomb was dropped that would have made a difference. It typically is not the time to say anything. The other person is just not listening. It is at times just time to walk away and say nothing.
i remember that i stopped talking about the r and the m fairly early because i knew i wasn't getting anything across. it was very hard for me at the time but despite not knowing how to db, i did it pretty naturally.
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Letting him lead during the bomb allows them to take control. Which is good to a point. Don't beat yourself up for not doing anything.
letting him lead was a 180 for me. cuz usually i lead. i'm the know-it-all. i watched h stumble throughout and it's sad but sometimes it's best to let them learn from failures.
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As far as your statement.. it looks good. Except for the words you bolded. The idea is to not be emotional at all. You define your faults and leave it at that. You don't talk about the future.. or any plans you have. By stating that you will move on.. you imply that you are still holding on. You show your hand.
hmm .. ok. my statement was inspired by randy pausch. if i'm going to apologize, i need to have three parts to it .. it was my fault, i'm sorry, how can i make it right? the last part shows sincerity. which is why i said "i wish there was a way for me to make it right."
i can take out the line in bold. but in general, when i read that statement, i don't show emotion. i can say it with a straight face. but i will remove it if it's too revealing.
no where in that statement, do i say he has done anything wrong. do i need to include anything like that? it's hard to without finger-pointing.
is the statement enough? i don't want to make it too verbose.
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So.. with that said.. how would you create an opening to use your statement?
i would have to ask him to meet for coffee or something to go over the separation agreement. i think he's off to see mom and dad soon though. i still do not have his supporting documentation. without it, i don't want to predict what the numbers will be.
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Sorry my posting is limited but typing this out on my phone is not great fun. I will be back home soon though.
you need the google android phone. i have been waiting patiently for your guidance. i was really proud of my statement. i asked coach to look at it but he has stopped posting on my thread. he gave me some guidance a few weeks back but i have yet to hear from him.
oh well.
summer squash league is about to end. regular season begins in september. $570 to play. ouch!
