once all this chase business is part of the past will she be content with a "regular R"?
excellent question. i am glad someone finally asked it.
It will never be a "regular relationship." She is not "the girl" he met on the 'T' coming back from Porter Square that became the wife that will only think of him. The chase is important it has to continue. Once it stops the relationship fizzles. You are reading about here. You can read about it in 20 other threads on this board. Go to any social function or to dinner and see it first hand, the couple that stands apart, the couple that doesn't talk at the table, the wife checking out some guys crotch or the husband staring at some other woman's breasts. They are bored out of their gourds. There is no challenge.
There is nothing wrong with serving up a little "mystery fruit cake." The first thread I posted on this board was, 'what does it mean when your wife tells you to get yourself a girlfriend.' and I got some lame answers. Its a pity a lot of people don't understand this. The people who divorce here and never come back learn it quick. The folks with teenage daughters can observe it first hand. If someone is falling in love with you because you need them and can't live without them, they are codependent also.
The chase is better than the catch. If you are unobtainable then someone is striving to obtain you. They are trying to attract and impress you as you are attracting and impressing them. You challenge each other. You are constantly trying to be better and sexier and cooler.
"What's cooler than cool?" (Andre 3000 right?)
Ice Cold. Once you bore them, they move on and you have a hell of a time winning them back. Its not hard to realize what won them over in the first place is the same thing that will win them back. The challenge. The quest. The infatuation.
And if it don't, well, you are already better and sexier and cooler. And you know what you want. You are lying if you say as you are driving along in your car you don't sing along:
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My baby don't mess around. Because she loves me so. And this I know for sure.
