BA, at this time of year, looking forward to football is my ONLY source of comfort. Tell me when you're in Michigan and we'll catch a Big House game together for sure. I do love Michigan football!
NM, I'm getting on the alt as soon as I finish journaling this. And I have NOT initiated things with Mr. A, but I have responded to his advances. He confused the hell out of me the other night: he "broke in" to the house and then seemed disappointed when I didn't refuse his advances. Oh well, he's totally crazy....
But I feel yucky about something tonight. I definitely wasn't expecting Mr. A to call, but he did. I was watching Top Chef and I have the kind of cable where a person's phone number shows up on the TV screen when they're calling.
So Mr. A called at 10:15. I saw on the TV and didn't answer. Then he called back again right away. The last time he did this, he subsequently "broke in" to the house. So I didn't answer again, but he left a message. He just wanted to tell me about how his new job is going.
I waited as long as I could stand and then listened to the VM and immediately called him back - got his VM, of course. I did leave a message that I was happy his job was going so well. I was calm, cool, and collected. I did NOT request a callback - didn't even invite it.
BUT - I don't like this whole exchange. I vowed to myself over the time that has passed since Mr. A left that I would never get into another blocking pattern with anyone I care about. I mean anyone! Blocking serves no purpose. Blocking only hurts, whether you're blocking your lover or your coworker or your golf partner. So I don't want to do that anymore.
But here Mr. A and I are back in the pattern of blocking each other. He calls me with genuine enthusiasm and I don't respond. I call him back and he doesn't respond. Barf. Been there, done that.
Anybody have any alternative viewpoints? I can't change the fact that I didn't pick up Mr. A's call tonight, but I CAN work hard to think of a better way to act (and an appropriate way to address tonight's behavior) if/when we talk again.
Advice on this topic is much appreciated.!!!!!!!!!
