I am sure there are areas you can sincerely improve on.. But don't take HIS CURRENT PROTESTS as a reliable sample of that...
yes, i'm working on some of my own quirks. i have a look that says "i'm better than you". which i have to stop.
if i were to do something differently about my marriage, i wouldn't have focused on starting a family. i think i wanted to have kids and it took the fun out of sex. it became routine. and my h did raise this as an issue. although it's hard to prove that this has changed. it's too bad because my shipment of VS stuff is hot. oh well.
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His mother has OCD obviously, how much research did you do on her disorder? Did you do any research on that to help smooth the conflict there?
my h researched this. he told me about the disorder that she had. he believe she needed to be on medication. but again, fil and h rather sweep it under the carpet and work around it. if you confront her, she'd cry. and nobody wants to make mom cry.
i could put up with her ocd. it was her lying that i couldn't put up with.
if i kindly told her that she didn't have to do our laundry, she'd tell my h that i was mad at her for trying to help. and then my h would side with her. "she's only trying to help." and i'm like .. i'm not mad. i just told her that she didn't have to do laundry.
she'd start buying stuff for our house and then follow up with "please tell me if i'm being a bossy betty because you know, i'm only trying to help". and you can't say no otherwise, she'll run to my h and tell him that i'm mad at her and that she doesn't feel welcome and she'll threaten to leave. she's pulled that stunt so many times ..
it's that kind of behaviour i cannot put up with. and i haven't even argued with my h about it. when i feel like she's doing that, i walk away. i actually took a breather and left the house for a few hours. it gave mom and son plenty of time to plot against me.
