Yes we've been separated for 1 year. No OW. Just 2 weeks ago he said he'd know by January if he wants to stay married if things continue to be ok (not sure what he means by go ok?), he's hopeful that we will, not sure if he wants d, etc. We see each other every weekend, I spend the night once a week when the boys come over. We ML 2 times a week now....sometimes more. We've just started calling each other during the day and last night.
Last night I only wanted to talk about our communication and if there was anything I could to make it better. The 5 Languages book recommends 3 things/feelings to each other per day. He agreed to do that and to be more active with the boys. He did not give me any specifics like what I may be doing that hurts his feelings or not enough of the right things to make him feel loved.
If he didn't say anything.... I just responded with well think about it and let me know if you have any ideas. I'm open. This whole scenario I played out with h is laid out in the book 5 Love Languages under the section "Loving the Unlovely". I think I did it exactly as the book said. He even reacted just as the scenario so I did the response too.
I'll get more advice when I go to see the counselor today though. My h went to the same c Monday and the c said it was very promising. Promising....not sure how since he still talks to me the same way as h pre-separation.
