It will help you avoid beating yourself up for starters. A lot of spouses hear projection during the affair and they beat themselves senseless trying to improve themselves... In areas that weren't their problem in the first place.
omg, this is what i have been doing! i'm like .. procrastinating? nothing is ever late. if there was a procrastinator, it was him.
and i never finish the job? uh .. he never finishes the job.
i'm fixing areas of myself that he complained about .. i mean, even though i know it's projection, i'm still working on me.
i'm running circles .. asking myself what's wrong with me?
