I've never been in this position before either--I've always done really well (well, except in the ministry job--where I did really well but ended up on the wrong end of the political clique there, inadvertently). I only got a week's notice, too.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012